Hi and welcome to The Gay Dad Project. Iâ€™m Amie, the infant you see all swaddled up, and holding me is my (big gay) dad, Pete.
I guess I should clarify a bit as ‘big’ and ‘gay’ are all a bit relative. You see, for most of my life (and all of my childhood) my dad was living a straight life. He was married to my mom and together they have 3 kids. So while my dad was gay he wasnâ€™t really gay because he was married and doing the family thing. As for the size thing, well, that eventually diminished over time.
I refer to my dad as â€œmy big gay dadâ€ because it makes light of a situation that has been less than light. At times my family relationships and situation has been very challenging for me. It took awhile for me to be able to talk about all of this and it sure has been a long and complicated road.
I pursued The Gay Dad Project with the desire to share my story with others and to find other families who were complicated, and gay,Â just like mine. I think my story and these stories are important not because it is my story and I want people to listen to me talk. (I have my own blog for that.)
I believe The Gay Dad Project has a bigger meaning. There has been much attention lately to same sex couple rights and homosexuality in general. As more and more people are talking openly about homosexuality the topic has less of a stigma associated with it. But less stigma does not mean less ignorance or hatred. In fact, sadly, itâ€™s far from that.
Talking with others about having a gay dad has led me to meeting other kids who are children of gay dads. I first met Jared, and then through Jared I met Erin. We all three had gay dads, and coincidentally, our dads were all born in the same year.
It feels great to have found two other children of gay dads, and together the three of us are working to make The Gay Dad Project happen. Through The Gay Dad Project we hope to find more kids like us and generate more dialogue around the topic.
I see The Gay Dad Project as a journey, and I sincerely hope you will enjoy following this journey with us as we share our thoughts, reflections, challenges, and triumphs both past and present.