I lived my first 18 years of life in northern Montana and graduated from Cut Bank High School in 2002. I have spent the last 10+ years exploring the world, and living in various places: San Diego; Uppsala, Sweden; San Fransisco; and now Oakland, CA. These last years have not only been a fun physical exploration of the world but also a challenging personal journey as I have grown and come to terms with my different family dynamic.
Through a conversation with the cousin of a friend I figured out my dad’s secret while I was still in high school. I never spoke about it then. After I went to college I was able to talk with close friends about having a gay dad but never met anyone else who had a gay parent like me. It was during my college career that my dad finally came out to my siblings and me. It was during this tumultuous time way that the initial seed for ‘The Gay Dad Project’ was planted.
I spent hours upon hours scouring bookstore after bookstore looking for books about kids (survivors) of parents where one parent was straight and one parent was gay. I found books for children of divorce, books for spouses who were married to someone who was gay, and books for children of same-sex couples. It was at this time that I promised myself that one day I would write a book so that no other kid had to feel as alone as I did.
It has not been an easy road and nothing is ever simple, but my hope is that The Gay Dad Project can help inspire and generate meaningful conversations about sexuality and marriage in the modern world. My parents stayed together, living in the same house and legally married, until all three of us kids were nearly grown. They divorced in 2009 and they both continue to live in the state of Montana. My sister and I both live in the San Francisco Bay Area, and my younger brother currently attends college in southern Montana.
Gay rights and human sexuality are only a few of my passions and interests. Dancing, traveling, meeting new people, writing, art, running, biking, technology, fashion, and Sweden are a few more. I’m excited about The Gay Dad Project and I hope it will be a positive place where people can share and discuss their stories openly. I see this as a project for everyone – people who identify as gay, straight, bi, transgender, & queer – as well as those that deviant from the ‘norm’ and those that are the ‘norm.’
It is my hope that the Gay Dad Project helps expose the need for more acceptance and tolerance in regards to sexuality.